Amen !!
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Given the context, shouldn’t your last two words have been whirled peas?
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That is how it’s pronounced.
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There are a few things that I have observed over several platforms of people taking things way too personally.
Try to joke to lighten the mood and that is a problem for them.
Agree with them and that is not okay.
I 
in agreement and if I don’t agree with the entire post then I try to comment instead of hoping that it will avoid people feeling offended.
When you agree with their post then you are rewarded with a snarky comment.
This is suppose to be a discussion forum where people present different sides of the issue and we are not all going to agree all of the time.
Yet these very people are offended when one does not take their side… I could go on.
My point being that it makes it very difficult to interact with them at all.
And that is the true tradgedy as I believe that they are oblivious because they feel entitled.
I’ve actually limited the platforms that I choose to frequent because we all have life happening all around us and everyone has their own cross to bear.
No one is immune from problems.
Everyone has problems.
It is how you unwrap them to resolve them is what truly matters.
No one likes to deal with problems because they are not fun.
It is your obstacle to overcome and gain resiliency to move forward in life.
I don’t get why it is so difficult to be cordial.
Not agreeing and arguing is okay.
I draw the line at name calling and bullying.
I agreed with most of you post especially the “surprise” part yet
don’t know if a new user ID is feasible.
Many CH Refugees changed their user name as a new beginning/new name and advertised who they were.
What is to stop the banned user from advertising their name?
I do like the thought process of giving them a clean slate and a second chance.
Thank you @NotJrvedivici for the sentiments underlying this post.
I’ve been feeling disenchanted and enjoying this community much less of late myself, and you articulated my feelings much better than my own garbled thoughts on the matter.
I have yet to use the ignore feature even though I’ve known of its existence since well before the recent influx, because my approach was that I could just scroll past a few replies and not lose the thread of a discussion better than by blocking comments from some users (also, it’s not how I interact IRL).
However, to my reading, there has been a significant change in the tone of the site of late. A few loud voices, either in their own opinions or yelling down others or occupying a ton of visual space in threads with the same points or many, many replies. It’s exhausting even to scroll past. It’s the equivalent of any room - give everyone a chance to speak, don’t suck up all the air.
(There used to be an auto-notification that popped up if you replied to the same user repeatedly, to move the conversation to DM or rethink whether another response was warranted - it makes me wonder whether these people don’t get this anymore, or repeatedly ignore it. Also, I used to consider the Top 5%/10% badges as a sign that I had posted too much… and to maybe take a breather to let other people post for a bit.)
It’s easier not to participate when it goes from a community to a site, which we have gotten to of late. I don’t mean not participate as in not express negative or contradictory opinions - I mean the diversity of voices just being muffled or lost. I hope that doesn’t happen.
ETA: Would it be possible to pin your PSA to the top of the landing page so everyone sees it?
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I’ve never had a problem with this website. Sure I give likes to the wfd pics. Why , because I like it .
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I’ve gotten that message when I first started posting here after exactly TWO replies to the same poster, so it must still exist. There’s def a lot of thread drift and back n forth between certain posters (not necessarily contentious, btw), where I personally think DMs would be better suited for those exchanges, but … I can also just ignore/scroll by 
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Well then obviously you are the problem! (Joke)
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Have you thought of moving this to a more prominent place as other users have suggested, Jr.?
You are welcome and while I appreciate your idea, I’m not sure pinning this would be very welcoming for newbies!
“Welcome to Hungry Onion!! Now sit down and shut the f’ up!”
Lol
For “us” old timer (and some of the newbies) I don’t mind using TGIF tone, but it’s certainly not welcoming.
Thank you
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You have a point there.
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I understand your point, and yet this seems like more of a site guidelines PSA.
So maybe rephrased as a site guidelines PSA than “here’s how you ignore people.”
Several replies here and on some threads (that likely prompted this post) are “well I’m on XX other sites and this is acceptable / it’s so much worse there” or “here’s how XX other sites I participate in do this so that’s how we should do it here” or “why is this being moderated? who decided moderation was ok?” and so on.
And yet, this site has been around for a while, so it’s really not about changing this community to how people behave elsewhere, and more about choosing whether you want to be here the way it was/is.
So maybe that’s what we need, pinned right under the “Welcome and introduce yourself” thread — “Here’s how it works here — and some useful tools, before you tell us how you’d like to change things.” But maybe a bit nicer.
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I thought I had seen this before… @hungryonion and mods - maybe the thread below could be be pinned under the intro thread (perhaps with a PSA about the ignore button).
Good reminders about transitions, take it easy, settling in, and being generally nice.
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Agree with you 
%
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I must voice my opinion as a longtime Onion. I’ve lurked on a few threads such as “What’s on your mind” and came away wondering “will unwieldy threads like this one day overwhelm the HO server(s)?” I’m not savvy about how Discourse operates, but if non food-related threads like that pose any threat/tax the mods and servers in any way, I really don’t see the need to support them.
In other words, “get a room.”
I vote for keeping the focus on the food. On some other threads, there has been so much uncivil back-and-forth, I find it impossible to scroll through without saying “eff it.” I won’t even visit the thread.
I recently did the unheard of (to me)…I muted voices, which is akin to censoring. Something I thought I would never do, whether I agree or disagree. The Boston board has had its share of controversy but I resisted muting. But the white noise has risen to decibels which I can’t ignore - this used to be a place of refuge for me. But I read some posts and come away wondering, “what the hell is this person talking about?” I am absolutely guilty of posting in a conversational / meandering style but I like to think I keep it food-focused. This is why I enjoy WFD, weekly menu planning, and the small and mighty Boston board. I like dialogue, but not at the expense of the greater good. But the idea of censoring voices is anathema to me. And nevertheless, I’m doing it.
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Testing…testing…bummp… bummp…is this thing on?
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@hungryonion I should’ve tagged you in my original post. I made a statement wondering about the health of the HO server without any prior knowledge. Can the server absorb all the new/recent on-going non food-related (or otherwise) discussions? And the mods…are they being needlessly taxed, or are things manageable?
I thought about a private message, but in the spirit of open dialogue, I’ll pose my questions here.
@NotJrvedivici thank you for the original post. It’s an important one.
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I think server space is not much affected by a conversation like this one or others in the “not about food” category, compared to all the food photos we routinely upload in the baking and dinner threads - those take up a lot of space.
The mods potentially getting run ragged by side convos that sometimes turn acrimonious might be more of an issue?
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I’ve always uploaded to a host and posted a link here. After joining I assumed Hungry Onion only permitted a member to upload a small amount. I can’t imagine why they would permit more unless they charged a membership…which I would pay.
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