This is a hilarious(-ly dumb) outdated term. The audacity of people being themselves! 
Umm - ok. I’m from a different generation than you but live in a blue state that was the first to legalize gay marriage, and I voted for our lesbian governor. I was parsing my words to keep my response to you respectful. I think it’s really sad there are places in this country where people can’t be themselves. I’m familiar with those places - thank you for calling me dumb.
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I’m sorry – I took that very differently. You said it was too much and when I asked why, you seemed to say because they were out and proud. That’s a perplexing answer. I apologize if I spoke too soon. I still don’t really get it. People should be free to be themselves.
ETA: “openly gay” has fallen out of use, I am guessing, because being gay is no longer treated like a huge social/moral/religious transgression that should be hidden. Younger generations have no patience or tolerance for that crap, speaking broadly. I grew up in the church in the 80s and 90s with several closeted family members and experienced firsthand how destructive that milleiu and the secrecy was. So yeah, I’m sensitive on the subject.
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I erased it.
Nice chatting. Sorry you got flamed. I quit postng as of today.
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Yeah. Sad to leave this place. There’s enough unpleasantness around us. I don’t need more. Probably one of the most rude encounters I’ve had with someone online.
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To be clear: I didn’t call you dumb. I called the term dumb.
When you write stuff like “blatantly flagrant” in regards to “openly gay,” you shouldn’t be shocked that somebody responds negatively.
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Don’t leave.
I left 2 years ago because I was upset. I came back because a few people reached out. I am fairly isolated and HO is part of my online social life, as well as a diary of sorts.
This space is big enough for people with different opinions.
People who post a lot more (like me) are invested in HO, and will take things personally.
I can see why Provincetown makes you and some others uncomfortable. I visited in 2003, with my parents, not knowing anything about it, and it was a little uncomfortable, because we are not part of the community. For us, it was a little like walking into a gay bar without knowing it’s was a gay bar.
I feel comfortable around my gay friends and acquaintances, and I attend house parties during Pride, but I’m not very interested in Pride Parades, because I don’t like the noise, I don’t need to see body parts (I took life drawing for years), it’s too crowded. I support it, but I don’t need to be there. I see PTown as a permanent Pride Parade, or a Pride Parade Holiday Village.
I also avoid beach towns that are crowded with drunk undergrads for some of the same reasons.
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We all have different experiences and different triggers. We will want to avoid some spaces others would feel comfortable and maybe we’re comfortable where others would not be comfortable.
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You both have said your thoughts about this. Really, I think this is sort of a reminder of why sex, religion and politics should be left out of an online discussion.
Maybe just say a place or a thing is not your cup of tea in the future, when a place or thing is not your cup of tea.
The topics will creep in sometimes, but it’s probably best to keep it to a minimum on a food board.
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I went to karaoke at a hilarious Tex Mex bar in St Anton, Austria. I don’t think I ordered any food. 
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One of the issues with nachos is that the chips don’t taste the same because nixtamalized corn hasn’t traveled the globe yet. Same issue with corn tortillas.
Of course then there’s all the other issues 
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Baking class sounds like fun!
I know what you mean by restorative get-togethers — they’re the best kind.
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Shrimp and asparagus risotto and Thai red curry both sound very appealing to me right now!
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Stay. Don’t let one rude exchange color your experience here. People are quick to judge, and unfortunately tend to read a lot of things in the worst possible light.
A little gentleness and kindness instead would go a long way. We appreciate you <3
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Agree - everyone just needs to grant everyone a little grace. I adopted this attitude especially since Covid, and will never not live it.
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Sub in “Asian/Black/Latino” for gay and it takes on a totally meaning.
I’m sad to see this discourse, excusing prejudice.
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Cooking for 2 in MN, actuals for July 8 week. I took on a volunteer task in their office part-day Wed - Friday that I hope to finish Monday. And took a water aerobics exercise class for the first time this week - I can’t dance in water either. Meals worked in around the scheduled stuff.
Mon: lunch - Pasta & meatballs from freezer, garlic buttered English muffin, grinder salad, grapes & strawberries. Dinner OUT - appetizers & beer
Tues: Coronation Chicken salad, naan, red grapes
Wed: Company creamed tuna on toast, peas, fresh tomato wedges
Thurs: Chef’s salad – lunchmeat, h.b. eggs, cheese, croutons, peas, fresh tomato wedges
Fri: Mexican-Taco Stuffed bell peppers (recipe in comment) , farro & brown rice Spanish Rice, peas
Rice/farro based on the Homesick Texan recipe
Sun: One Pan French Onion Smothered Pork Chops, mashed potatoes, sauteed mushrooms, sliced fresh apple, spinach
Sun: (today) - Power went out while we slept (at 1 AM) and stayed out until 3 PM. Our generator kept the fridge and freezer chilled. Cold lunch (Sandwiches, chips, watermelon) and carry out pizza for supper.
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Mexican / Taco Stuffed Peppers
Recipe from CH’er Bacardi1. I serve with Homesick Texan’s Spanish Rice, and peas
2 -3 large colored Bell peppers (yellow, red, orange, green) – 2024 – 4 pack of medium
1 lb. ground turkey ( I use beef)
1 can refried beans (16 oz, fat free)
1 cup salsa ( “medium” spice)
2-3 teaspoons ground cumin
2 - 3 teaspoons chili powder
1/2 - 1 teaspoon garlic powder
1/2 - 1 teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes
4 - 8 oz., divided, shredded sharp cheddar cheese (4 oz was plenty)
Spanish, Mexican, or yellow rice to serve
Cilantro to garnish (optional)
Preheat oven to 375F.
Cut peppers in half lengthwise & remove stems & seeds. Place in a greased baking dish just large enough to hold the pepper halves. Note 8x8 pan held 4 large halves (2 peppers) or 8 medium/smaller pepper halves. Partially pre-cook unfilled pepper halves in microwave while meat browns.
Sauté ground turkey (beef) until cooked through, & combine with beans salsa, cumin, chili powder, garlic, crushed red pepper flakes, & approx. 1/3 of the cheese. Fill pepper halves with mixture (any extra can just be allowed to drift down around peppers), & top with remaining cheese. Cover baking dish snuggly with foil, tenting it slightly to keep cheese from sticking to it, & bake for approx. 40 minutes if peppers were pre-cooked, 45 minutes to an hour if starting from raw or until raw peppers are tender (slide a sharp knife into one to check after 45 minutes). Remove from oven & allow to rest – still covered – for 10 minutes. Serve on a bed of rice & garnish with cilantro if desired.
Notes - original recipe spice quantities were the higher number shown, I reduced by 1/3 to 1/2 so used the lower number shown. I also reduced the amount of cheese to 4 oz - about a half bag of prepared shredded total. Rice served on side was essential to also tone down spiciness. For large peppers, about 1 cup of filling per half. Use any leftover filling for nachos topping. For medium peppers 4-pack about ½ – ¾ C filling each.
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I’m sad but not surprised.
It has happened before, and for some reason people not part of the thread / discussion always show up to defend it.
You may recall an Indian restaurant review in the GBA full of unnecessary racist tropes, with the response to “suck it up” because “we need many voices” and “content”.
Also more than once when someone asked that an obscure word not be used because its homophone was racist and it would have been easy to acquiesce to the request and use different (less obscure) words.
The simplest adult solution when an unintended offense occurs is for whoever said whatever to accept that it was inadvertently offensive, apologize / retract it, and move forward.
But instead people step in to defend offensive comments and directly or indirectly attack whoever took objection as being “over-sensitive” or not accepting of “different opinions” or “unpleasant” — aka gaslighting.
If a comment was offensive, it doesn’t need defense — it needs to be retracted, especially if it was inadvertent.
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Love stuffed peppers!
I learned my cousin’s shortcut method, as it’s where I first ate them — he sautés ground turkey and mixes in an equal quantity of cooked rice and a jar of salsa, then stuffs the mixture into the peppers, topped with cheese before baking.
He slices the stem / top end off so the stuffed peppers are vertical.
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Smothered pork chops sound really good, but I live in fear of overcooked / tough pork chops.
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