One NJ wedding we attended had an expected 300 guests and the various food areas/meals went on for six hours but the following day when we were talking about the food, we all realized that the busiest area was the hamburger grills set up on an outside porch. We later learned that food was supposed to be for the servers.
Another experience, in VA the focus was on the booze and Music… food was being passed by servers all night. If you weren’t quick on your feet, you best have booked a hotel room. We did.
Another in New Paltz, NY, the roof leaked all night making it difficult to enjoy a lavish meal and DJ dance party…so midway the best man called limos and moved the entire party of 50 or so to a local diner-ish joint where we took over and left a fat tip. All I recall is coffee and a sandwich.
My fav wedding was held at a PA lakeside rental property. Four live bands, fireworks and a full on catered pig roast. We stayed four days.
The 2019 wedding run for us was for the most part very predictable wedding fare. No standouts food wise but def noticed a frequent use of seafood; sushi, tartare, oysters many ways, and very little beef. Boozy desserts and silly fountains still the rage. And, a room filled with more than say 100 people means a lot of guests are getting lukewarm food.
This year, fingers crossed, we have less weddings to attend and more leisure travel/food to enjoy.