Let grownups talk like grownups – that’s all. The F-bomb has been allowed in PG-13 movies, and t*ts is so commonplace it truly amazes me that someone was so mortally offended that could even muster the click. Don’t get me wrong – it’s not anywhere to be found on my list of 100 most-favorite words, but seriously, is THAT the hill you wanna die on?
The f-bomb-happy poster over on FTC doesn’t offend me – his overuse of the word (IMO) very strongly suggests that he has nothing more important to say, so filling it full of noise makes it seem more important, but I don’t think he should be censored or banned. (Asked to grow up and write like a grownup rather than a swear-happy 12-year-old, maybe, but not censored or banned.) People say he’s got a great writing style, but I’m just not going to go to the work of sifting out the excess to get to what he’s trying to say. I’d feel the same way if he peppered his posts with Geez, or stinkin’ or if he, in person, filled his speech with y’know and like.
This particular thread is about Hooters – in and of itself a slang term for human mammary glands. There is really no way to discuss the place without bringing up mammary glands, and the tenor of the discussion was about their use as a tip-enhancement tool for tips/customer traffic/etc. (and I’m a little amused that living in the middle of Hooters’ home territory, I haven’t heard this much kerfuffle about this issue in years - it’s just a wing joint these days) If someone is offended by the word tits, then they should have steered away from this conversation from the get-go – not requested that adults talking about the restaurant and the culture surrounding its success have their keyboards washed out with soap – after the conversation had been going for a few days.
It’s all about context and intent – and the use of tits and boobs in this conversation was not there to shock or offend.
You said that you wanted the forum PG-13 – people over 13 cuss, and people over 13 use grownup language sometimes (whether obscenity or words having a sexual connotation). Should the situation arise where someone is blatantly and gratuitously using foul language with the sole intent of offending, then it may have to be revisited. (by the way – I am in NO WAY suggesting that any kind of hate-type speech – anything used as a slur – against men, women, races, religions, lifestyle choices, political leanings, etc – should be tolerated at all – THAT is pretty universally offensive and absolutely doesn’t fit into “nice” or “normal adult speech.”_
At the end of the day, it’s your forum, and therefore your right to do whatever you see fit – but someone is going to scream offense (real or imagined) no matter what language you allow or don’t allow.