Lately I’ve been noticing a tendency on the part of some HOers to criticize other people’s taste in foods. Terms like “disgusting” and “monstrosity” are used to describe things that other people say they like. Even though I really dislike the phrase “don’t yuck other people’s yum”, it applies here. We all like what we like, and I think calling something disgusting is rude and an overreaction. I’d love to see more civility and tolerance here. Thanks.
Glad I’ve missed those (?). I thought that (no matter what one might think of the phrase itself) “not yucking other people’s yums” was part of the community guidelines.
It’s def a rule in reddit.
Fer shame.
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I also don’t like the yuck/yum phrase - it used to litter Chowhound and it used to irritate me every time. But it does get a message across.
Now, I have to say, I havent seen unpleasantness of any sort on HO for quite a while, so pleased that I must have missed them. I know robust comments can cross a line and I also know I’ve been guilty of that from time to time. I just give myself a good talking to and hopefully return to the polite and cheery Harters for which I’m internationally known. But please be aware that if anyone posts how much they love Andouillete de Cambrai, then I am likely to react with expressions of disgust. 
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I’ve also not seen anyone post poorly about someone else’s food. And I guess if you see it and think it’s out of line, report to the Mods with an explanation of “Yucking someone else’s yum.”
I mean, it’s fine to say that something is not to your taste, as I know many have seen me do about cilantro, but if someone says “Ewww, that looks gross! How could you even think about eating that?” - yeah, that’s way over the line.
ETA: Yes, I know I’ve gone way overboard when it comes to cilantro, but I believe (hope?) that I do so in a teasing manner. Having that weird gene that makes it taste like soap really throws me for a loop if I bite into something that has it.
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time to time some person gets the self-impression that they are the one, the only authority on food/cooking/etc.
see recent sticky from HungryOnion.
it is up to ‘the management’ to resolve the situation with dispatch - and with as much finality as is required.
Forums like this exist as ‘a nice place to go / participate’ - it only takes one axxhole allowed to run wild - to totally destroy a place. seen it a number of times, since 1979 when I started sysoping/moderating.
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The proverbial turd in the punch bowl… which is why I prefer martinis 
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A comment in a thread I personally started about frozen pizza recommendations seems to have been one of the offending ones.
ETA: Being able to accept a disagreement over a food item without taking it personally is part of a civil & mature discourse on a food discussion board, too.
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This is all I am going to say on this. I’m not taking it personally - I don’t even like meat on pizza. My point is that there are many things in the world that could truly be described as a monstrosity, but I don’t think a frozen pizza is one of them. Feel free to have whatever opinions you like about whatever you like on this forum. If I feel uncomfortable with your word choices, I have the option of not reading them. 
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My apologies for using hyperbole. I didn’t mean to offend anyone, certainly not over a mindless exaggeration on my part. As it says in my profile “Eat what brings you joy.”
Have a wonderful rest of your day 
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How timely this thread is, due to a personal situation recently, though nothing to do with HOs. I have a friend (since HS now!) and since that’s been a long time, I’m talking decades! Anyway, she’s a spiritual seeker so to speak, and has shifted beliefs a few times. Now, due to her current beliefs, she feels entitled in some way to mock others’ food choices. I explained to her, using the don’t yuk my yum phrase, since it’s pretty succinct. This held her at bay for a while, but she started back up, and in a recent text she compared my eating pork to eating rats, and suggested we just throw a big rat on the BBQ lol! I was truly offended, said each to their own (also via text) and let it go at that. I was appalled and offended, especially since I don’t question her beliefs or dietary choices. Anyway, things are cool between us at present, and by that I mean “chilly.” It wasn’t from the besmirching of my food choices exactly, but fits into a certain pattern of behavior, that is what I call “stirring the shit.”
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I’m saddened to read that, Lambchop. It’s really difficult when friends and family become “weird”.
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That sucks, lambchop. It’s so hard to have a friendship suffer from something that shouldnt be so important.
I kind of figure that if I’m not buying it and it’s not my mouth, I don’t really get a vote. Eat what you like and let me do the same. (Unfortunately people tend to lose sight of that second part)
I do reserve the right to think (internally and nonverbally) that it’s gross. 
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Perhaps the worst I’ve ever come across was a (40+ year-old) woman at work who, while I was eating an egg sandwich, opened her mouth and made a motion of sticking her index finger into her mouth as if she was going to puke. I almost asked her if her mummy had not told her that that was rude!
Then there was the friend at dim sum who, faced with squid, said, “Yuck!”. He subsequently tried and enjoyed it.
Diverging a bit from the discussion, a guy at work was saying that this son, who worked at an ice cream shop was eating ice cream he brought home from work, and his sister was going crazy because he refused to give her any. I felt like asking him if he didn’t believing in teaching his kids to share.
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Who knew?
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Oh, my! How ungracefully immature. It’s amazing how many adults have not been taught the most basic manners.
I looked around the site a bit more, in particular searching for the use of the “disgusting” descriptor in any response to someone else’s enjoyment of a food, but just couldn’t find anything like it — nor any other examples of such behavior (besides my own, terribly regretful misstep, of course), so perhaps it’s not any sort of “recent trend” here, after all.
And hallelujah for that 
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I confess, I’m probably prone to thinking that hyperbole is acceptable for its being so extreme. Like, I belong to a group where our assessments exist on a scale of 1 to 10, but with 10 being “would” and 1 being “I’m calling The Hague”.
Of course, I’d never call something someone about themselves (their preferences, their recipes) “disgusting”. That seems a judgement on the person a lot of the times for reasons I’m too braindead to tease out right now.
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#shadesofspringfield
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