Got it .
Thirty years too long to hold a grudge regarding the Exxon Valdez @jcostiones? Umm - I donāt think soā¦Prince William Sound was pristine when that happened. As you know it impacted a lot of people for a long time; many have been remunerated to a certain extent. But accidents do happen, which in this case was due to sheer complacency on the part of the captain than due to alcohol in my opinion. This sounds like a lecture, which is truly not my intention, but I still have relatives living in that breathtakingly beautiful hell hole on earth. I lived and worked there in the 70ās on the pipeline, āātwas quite the scene. The Pipeline Club where the captain was drinking had the best food in town, and was great for the weekend parties. Despite working 73.5 hours each and every week, we somehow found the energy to party on - must have been our youth Lol 
Sorry for getting so OT, hope you enjoyed my little story.
To keep this on track I agree with everybody about anything on this thread except the 30 year grudge haha.
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A mere blink of the eye. My longest standing grudge dates to circa 1979 - an unpleasant shit of a boss. I would still react if I came across him in real life.
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While working at my last job, I had a psycho boss from the very depths of hell; couldnāt stand her a**hole husband either. We live in a relatively small suburb with not that many good places to eat/dine. One Friday night we cruised the parking lot of a resto we wanted to go to and not seeing either one of her cars, we decided to go in. But seriously, I made H look in the windows to see if she was seated anywhere. Nope, didnāt see her, relief, whew. When we opened the front door to go in, there she was, waiting for a table. Talk about being a deer in the headlights, damnit! And she hugged me like we were besties, shudder. I will go to my grave (hopefully not too soon) with bad feelings towards that person. So yeah, some people are simply unforgivable, sadlyā¦
ETA the reactions are literally visceral too, like the hairs standing up on the back of your neck 
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I felt that way with my wife. Thatās why sheās now the ex Mrs. bbqboy.
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Apart from the arsewipe I mentioned earlier, I have had two other ābosses from hellā. There was the mad ex-colonel who sacked me after a couple of years. I donāt bear him a grudge as (a) he was mad as a hatter and (b) it worked out well - I should never have taken that job. I then worked for a government agency for the next 20+ years. On my last assignment, I started out with the best boss I ever had in my whole working life. She got promoted to be replaced with the worst boss of the working life. A complete incompetent who did not know her arse from her elbow adn who managed to undo, within weeks, the improvements Iād help introduce and support. We had mutual disrespect for each other and I suspect it didnt take Human Resources that long to approve my application for early retirement.
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I had one of those too @bbqboy, but not a wife. Husband #1, persona non grata, no redeeming qualities, canāt mention or even write his name. Thank god I didnāt mate with him.
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My sweet dad is a former colonel, and at almost 94, he still returns to colonel mode from time to time. I have had the great pleasure of being able to help him when my mom was dying, and again when he got very sick last year. (Itās exhausting but worthwhile). When he starts barking orders at me, like how to drive, (since he he is legally blind), I have to bring the hammer down. Luckily heās very nice and grateful
for my help about 90% of the time.
Back to the albatross around my neck with my last boss, she was universally loathed by everyone in all sectors of our operations. Trust me, I had very good working relationships with and access to top management, as well as those working the line in manufacturing. The receptionist would always call me when the she devil was on the hoof back to the R&D building where we worked. That gave me time to get back to my desk if necessary and look busy if it was slow. Not that Iām a slacker. Due to an acquisition by another company that was called a joint venture ( I didnāt drink that kool aid), I waited eagerly to get laid off and get my nice little severance package, which all came to pass. My last day there was one of great happiness and relief!
Back to the topic of CFA, their founder died just 3-4 years ago; I think things may be starting to change, as I hear theyāre open on Sundays now. Hope they change their policy regarding people of different orientations very soon.
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Am I reading this correctly? If you camped out for 12 hours you would get a meal a week for a year? That seems like a deal to me. Sleeping bag , check. Gloves, check. More liquor than I could carry, check.
It was a nice gesture by ābig badā CFA to offer free chicken sandwiches to all veterans and military on Monday.
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They donāt have to drag the kids into it - one of the kids is bisexual, maybe she dragged the adults into it. Or no dragging because her friends and family love her for who she is?
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Iām guessing about the same amount an eighth grader knows about heterosexuality or homosexuality. So, a pretty sizeable amount.
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Here we go.
Look, if you light a fire, donāt be surprised when people show up with marshmallows.
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Google tells me that the American āeight gradeā is equivalent to the āYear 9ā we have in England. So kids aged around 13 - 14. Itās a long time ago for me, but I canāt recall having much doubt at that age that I fancied girls not other boys. Accepted that some kids will be more advanced about such matters at this age, and others less so.
By the by, at the age of 14/15 I had a general interest in political issues and, certainly at 15, was actively assisting in political campaigns. Canāt recall any campaigns about food related issues or, indeed, issues of sexuality. But Iām going back to the mid 1960s here when the agenda was different.
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I donāt like introducing another word, since sometimes new vocabulary gets people more exacerbated. But I agree, your view isnāt necessarily homophobic but it is heteronormative.
In 8th grade you certainly are starting to know about your own feelings and emotions, including sexually. If you are straight that is easy to interpret - youāve had a lifetime of examples of what those feelings mean and straight adults readily accept those thoughts. If you have feelings other than that, you certainly know but may not have the words for them or any positive examples of how to interpret them. In 2019, 8th graders do have access to that vocabulary, so are able to talk about those feelings in a way that didnāt happen even 5 years ago. But when they talk about themselves in the same way as their straight peers, straight adults donāt accept those discussions the same way.
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Mod note:
Excluded discussions ā Please no discussions on the following topics: Policies, politics, racism, disability, religion, sexual orientation, discrimination.
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Good luck with this.
This reminds me of a press conference an American football coach had and the injury status of his star quarterback Cam Newton kept being asked repeatedly. Coach Rivera said he would answer any question except about his quarterback, next question.
āAbout Cam.ā
Coach bailed.
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If this video doesnāt make you smileā¦
He is going to be eating good!
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Great kid!
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