For people who have never eaten a certain food, the only time you can tell them to eat something whatever way they want is when “bite off absolutely any part of it, chew up all of that bite, and swallow it” is a good idea. In other words, “any way you want” must include being fine to eat the bones.
(I personally know not to eat the bones from other parts of a chicken, but the whole point is that I was already familiar with the other parts.)
