People hold grudges for the silliest things — e.g. minor misunderstandings that could easily be resolved by a simple conversation, but there are infractions so heinous that they are unforgivable. People who have treated me badly on purpose are swiftly removed from my life. For good.
I’ve never been a doormat.
My heart breaks for Jalalabad and all the families affected by the earthquake. Just awful.
There are at least 3 places in town to which this would apply.
quite a few in Toronto, too
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never mind
My sister called to let me know that my younger nephew admitted himself to a closed psychiatric unit a couple of days ago bc he’d been having suicidal thoughts.
We’re still in shock, but relieved that he had the wherewithal to seek help instead of doing something irreversible. He’s been struggling with ADHD for most of his adolescence (he’s 21), and had gone off his meds, then restarted taking them when he couldn’t keep up with his university classes anymore. He’d dropped most of them without telling my sis and BIL, and had been lying about other university-related things, and so felt like even more of a failure. This is all so very sad. He’s an incredibly intelligent, compassionate and kind young man. I can’t even think about what might have happened if he wasn’t also incredibly self-aware.
The most important thing right now is that he is in good hands & will hopefully get the help he desperately needs. Poor kid 
@linguafood, thank goodness that your family member thought to start getting help. Wise decision that I expect took real inner strength. Sending good thoughts.
Thank you. Yes, we’re still reeling from the news. This year can srsly fuck off for good, I swear.
Sorry to hear, but thanks for sharing. These issues need to be out in the open, without any stigma attached. I hope he recovers well, and learns some coping skills for moving forward. As well, possibly some meds.
I have had a couple of cousins who chose suicide, and it’s just so sad for everyone.
I agree that there should be no stigma about mental health whatsoever. TBH I debated whether I wanted to share at all, but this community has been so supportive in the past, and we’re all in this crazy thing we call ‘life’ together, after all — with all of its warts and ugliness and sadness.
I’m sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine the grief of losing a child, and I know my sister was and is shaken to the bone, as are we.
Very thankful he chose to help himself by self-admitting himself to the hospital. I hope the stay helps him work through things and he can get back on track with a good and safe life.
A quote I read on suicide: the person who commits it dies once; the loved ones die every day.
Oh too true on that - it’s hard to witness.
I can’t help to think the current climate, political or environmental, plays into this. It is so hard to grow in this world. Sending good wishes to you and yours.
TBH it’s more likely a feeling of complete and utter personal failure. He’s so smart he lead a discussion group on WA with PhD candidates reading Baudrillard IN FRENCH when he was still in HS. His brain just works differently bc of the ADHD.
And I often flinched when my sis would call him stupid or slow just bc he messed up a move playing boardgames.
So, I think he set a standard for himself that was impossible to reach, and once he moved out he’s been terribly lonely. He’s quite introverted and has had real trouble making friends at the university.
I think his (perceived) academic failure coupled with the isolation was enhanced by going back on that damn Ritalin, which in turn can increase suicidal thoughts.
Like most things, it’s complicated.
Thank you for your well wishes. Such kind people on here 
If I hear one more person asks if a kid is “just doing it for attention,” I might get booked into my own jai. Really? Kids don’t get chaptered for attention seeking. Mental health is real.
Maybe it makes a bit more sense if you take the word “just” out of the sentence.
What does “get chaptered” mean where you are?
