What's On Your Mind 2023

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This is from Southern Oregon photographer Jasman Lion Mander.

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Awesome. Even if we could have seen the path here, it was raining all day.

Thanks for posting this. We had trees and overcast skies interferring in our viewing. It is always an awesome event to see an eclipse, solar or lunar. Reminds one of how infinitesimal we humans are in this world.

The sun peaked out a few times for me this morning but bad timing, so I did not see it. When that solar eclipse happened a few years ago my neighbor was kind enough to give me a few glasses for it. My ā€œabove it allā€ self was surprised by how the event affected me. The way the flowers, the bugs, and the frogs reacted along with the visual effects on the ground resulted in an emotional response in me that I had not expected. I kept those glasses as a reminder to not be such an asshole.

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Next April 13 we get another chance on the other side of the states.

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https://x.com/5tevieM/status/1714772292071248191

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Super cool photo.

I had clear skies for it but was down in Florida that weekend, taking my son on a birthday fishing charter.

I didn’t have the ā€œproperā€ viewing glasses but whenever the frame on a pair of sunglasses goes kaput I keep the lenses, and crossing up 3-4 lenses each makes an eclipse fairly viewable.

Down there it was supposed to be about 70% of the sun’s disk bit out by the moon, but to me it looked less than 50%.

Okay, here now, I see absolutely nothing wrong with eating 12 fish sticks in a sitting. Unless I misunderstand, and a ā€œfish fingerā€ is substantially larger than the ā€œfish sticksā€ I am familiar with.

BTW, the better part of that thread was when some troll said to her (the original poster, Stevie Martin):

  • Make up stories for attention, sad.

And she replied:

  • are you a chicken nugget?
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Are most home cooks really somewhere between mediocre and… not at all good?


My MIL was widowed this year in February. Then just 3 weeks ago we found out she’s got liver cancer, not certain of origin* but it appears to be primary liver cancer rather than cancer having metastasized from elsewhere, because on PET contrast scan there’s no where else in her body they can find any cancer.

In all this stuff going on, we’ve had just a wonderful lot of people bringing meals. Both when her husband died, and now with her diagnosis. It’s her bridge group of old ladies. And her community center old ladies. Her church friends and her bible study friends.

The thing is, I’ve been cooking for her (and him, before he died in Feb). The stuff these ladies have been bringing range from somewhere between not good at all to barely average to bad to maybe dangerous.

Today was particularly bad - a beef roast that, as delivered was at 130F at 3 pm and cooked ā€œa couple hours agoā€ (I stuck it in the oven to get it to 170+ between 3 and dinner at 7) and a really sad salad. She was trying to replicate a common ā€œAsianā€ salad with crunchy ramen, but had put the ramen in from the start so it was soggy. Then she added green peppers for some reason…

So I’m obviously not asking for solutions here, I’m just complaining.

Sorry.

(*) She has no other ā€œcancer hitā€ sites on PET scan but her Onco doc still thinks it’s likely secondary, just because primary liver cancer is so rare. Anyone with experience, I would very much appreciate info.

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I am so sorry for your MIL’s issues and for your family and this journey.
How does one rescue a suspect roast? When in doubt, throw it out? Do pets suffer from spoiled food?
Continue to cook for her what she enjoys and maybe supplement with appropriate gifted items?
Take care of yourselves and spread the love. Peace to you!

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Many thanks for your well-wishes, mts.

Mostly we (and even she) are trying to figure out how to gently tell all her benefactors that she doesn’t need any more food, without saying particularly why.

We’ve already communicated that we have too many leftovers, but these ā€œmeal trainā€ things seem to take on/have a life of their own.

In the end, it’s just a minor thing. Like I said earlier, I was just kind of ranting.

Thank again.

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Getting a U.S. Federal EIN specifically for an estate - tips

I’ve just gone through the process of getting an EIN (which is needed for an estate of a deceased loved one, even though the ā€œEā€ is ā€œEmployerā€) for my father-in-law’s estate.

It should be a really straight-forward process but some of the questions are weird because the IRS has decided to shove estate matters into corporate Employer Identification Numbers.

Feel free to PM me if you are now having to do this and are unsure about any of the parts of the form.

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Complain all you want to, that’s what we’re here for. I totally understand about drop off food, not knowing how it was cooked and kept warm etc. I’m sure you thanked them warmly and what you don’t trust goes in the trash. Cakes and pies are usually safe. Sorry you’re going through this tough time.

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Situation Normal All F**ked Up, Clear As Mud! Dealt with that with my parents.
Uncle Sam STILL will not accept my hyphenated last name after nearly 4O years.
I’m glad I’m retired and can spend my spare time wrestling with them!
Good luck!

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Is there a Halloween version of the Grinch or Scrooge? I’ve been leaving candy on the steps…and much of it is still there at the end of the evening.

We have local activities we didn’t have many years ago.

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4:00 is awfully early for all but the tiny tots.
Our downtown kids parade is happening as we speak.
All the merchants hand out treats and :blush: goodies.

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All the merchants hand out treats and goodies.

Same here!
Yes; it’s too early, but I hate to get caught setting it up. :jack_o_lantern:

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It’s just after 8pm here in the Boston area. My town sent out a notice that there are no specific trick-or-treat hours tonight and that it’s at parents’ discretion when to take kids around (or let them just go around). I live in a condo development that is mostly retirees (and some commuters). We are also down an embankment from an elementary school. You’d think there’d be some kids, but there’s been none in the 8 years or so we’ve been here.

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