This subject was brought up on the WFD thread by @honkman and I thought it would be good to perhaps open this topic up to a wider audience.
For example:
Should we hide food like cauliflower amongst potatoes if our children absolutely detest cauliflower?
Or avocado in brownies for the same reason?
What are your thoughts on the subject?
Depends. If is it essential for their health, then yes. Where to draw the line as âwhat is essentialâ is another question.
I strongly disagree with this practice. I donât think itâs a good idea to lie to children. When I find out that someone has lied to me it leads me to speculate on what else theyâve lied to me about.
Also, the practice of hiding food in other food reinforces childrensâ beliefs that they dislike nutritious foods.
I believe that a far better practice is to discuss with children how their tastes change over time and how the same food prepared differently tastes different. Examples:
Every person Iâve met who dislikes Brussels sprouts has only had them boiled or steamed. When they try them roasted, they love them.
I think that kale is delicious when itâs cooked. I dislike kale salad.
Oh boy⌠thatâs a rough topic. Growing up with my parentsâ rule of âfinishing everything on your plateâ in order to get dessert, had me being overweight for most of my life.
So I am a big fan of not telling your kids what (or how much) to eat.
With that said, I think it is important to cook for your kids. We had steak a lot, and I didnât like steak (especially how they cooked it). So when steak was on the menu, for me it was replaced with junk food (hot dogs, fish sticks, etc.).
Ideally, work with your kids on healthy dishes they like. Maybe even get them involved in the process of cooking. If youâre here, you like food and cooking (and are most likely pretty good at it)⌠so try and pass that on to your kids as they will come to cherish those skills as they get older.
Shooting from the hip - age is a factor here. However, thereâd be so such rule as having to eat something someone detested just because I said so. So detested food would be part of the menu planning. Iâm a dick but a mostly a flexible one.
Now having said that whatâs available to eat is whatâs on the table. And once the kitchen is closed after clean up itâs closed. While a between meal snack isnât strictly prohibited it is discouraged and where thereâs an exception made it would be rather healthy choices such as fruit or bourbon. Not many snacks in the cupboards.
Thatâs another horrible parenting practice. Iâm sorry you were subjected to it. My parents also made me finish my plate; to this day I have a hard time not doing so.
Food shouldnât be a punishment or a reward. Rewarding children with dessert leads to adults who reward themselves with dessert. The best practice is to keep lots of healthy and delicious food in the house and very little, if any, junk food.
Donât do it. There will always be something that they will eat to take the place of what they wonât. Itâs a matter of trust. My guys were extremely picky and, though it was difficult, I adapted. Turns out there were sensory issues at play that were disregarded in the past, but are now more researched. I remember sitting at the dinner table gagging, all the while being screamed at and forced to eat. There was no way I was going to do that to my kids.
My older kid just wonât eat leafy veggies. But she will eat broccoli and cauliflower, green peas, fava. So we cook more of those.
We try to put a reasonable amount of food on their plate. If they get full as long as itâs not half the plate remaining we are ok. But if they want to eat some snack immediately afterwards I make them finish their proper meal first.
this is a real giggle for me - as it is a âpast and presentâ thing - i.e. 3 kids, now all grown and cooking in their own households.
we never insisted they had to eat things - we only insisted they had to âtasteâ it.
we made things they liked - fortunately they didnât develop a complete rejection syndrome⌠so they ate properly. including stuff like liver and onions - before they hit school age, brussel sprouts, all the veggies - beets, turnips, parsnips, soft boiled eggs (gooey eggs), etc. etc. they spent a weekend with their grandmother - and came back asking for liverwust and onion sandwiches . . .
I did reverse pancake âpaintingâ for their favorite things - cats, rabbits, 4 wheelers - not that too many kids reject pancakes.
so fast forward 30 years - now I get calls âHeh, how did you make x/y/z?â
seems theyâre throwing back to childhood and seem to remember stuff they had, didnât like, decided they actually do like it nowâŚ
highly amusing . . . .
I have all my recipes on the computer - so last Xmas I copied all of it to thumb drives, which apparently has been quite a hit in their kitchens.
My kids are grown. When they were little we did not feel that complete transparency about ingredients was necessary, so if there was occasionally cauliflower in the mashed potatoes or zucchini in the spaghetti sauce they never knew about it. If one of the three had a specific dislike we honored it, I guess we were lucky in that nobody was especially fussy. They still seem to like me so no damage done I guess.
I couldnât agree more - I think hiding food from kids just because they donât like it is completely wrong and very counterproductive. It is much better to often expose them to many different foods, even the ones they donât like, in a very open manner and many different ways.
But do you cook just other food if they donât like one or allow snacking after a meal ? For us we cook one dinner for all of us and thatâs whatâs for dinner (and we are in general arenât big on any kind of snacking for us or daughter)
I had no idea soft boiled eggs and liverwurst were on the kid verboten list.
My love affair with those delicacies started as a kid.
Me too !
I agree 1000000%. I had a really bad experience when a grad school classmate came to a potluck with veggie chili with âjust vegetables and beansâ and did not mention the TVP. Guess who doesnât do well with soy and found out about the TVP the hard way? And guess who never ate anything this classmate prepared every again?
When I was 12 years old I quit eating meat. As my mother cooked meat for dinner every night and my father didnât cook, I began cooking for myself.
When I took care of my cousins I would only make one meal, but they were welcome to make something different for themselves. I usually made customizable meals such as tacos.
I donât understand your problem with snacking. Some people prefer to eat fewer large meals (I typically eat twice a day.); others prefer to eat many small amounts throughout the day. As far as Iâm concerned, either way is fine.
Many people (including kids) tend to snack and eat regular meals, so that the overall calories intake is too high. In addition, many snack tend to be calorie -rich and nutrient poor. Snacking can be OK if it really substitutes regular meals it in my observation it often doesnât happen.
Obviously, marketing is a big part of the problem
I believe that it comes down to different definitions of the word snack.
To me, a snack is a good eaten at a time thatâs not breakfast, lunch or dinner. A typical snack for me would be peanuts and an orange.
I donât keep chips, commercial baked goods, etc. in the house. I keep plenty of fresh produce. This is a better method of ensuring healthy eating than limiting what times people may eat.
Forcing children to eat food they dislike and forcing them to eat at specific times can cause eating disorders.
People should appreciate what they are eating. And part of that appreciation comes from knowing, and understanding, what you are eating.
So, no, âweâ should not be sneaking food into childrenâs diets.
And this applies to children and adults, and everyone in between.
We are sentient beings after all, not goldfish.
I think the distinction between âsnacksâ and âmealsâ is more nomenclature than anything else, and discussions between the two eventually degrade into logomachy.
Letâs say a person eats 5x a day, but only very little quantities. Is that person eating 5 âmealsâ or just constantly snacking?
Whoâs to say? And who really cares.
What really matters is the total calories being consumed in any one period of time (usually 24 hours). If those total sum of calories are consumed in 10 different points in time, so be it. If those same calories are consumed at one time, then so be it as well.
Why get hung up on labels.
Eat, just not too much.
