I see what you mean now. An immediate gratification type.
Iām an asset.
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Iām a liability.
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Haha. Had I been required to hazard a guess without context Iād have suggested an item useful in lowland parts of Louisiana subject to frequent flooding.
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inĀ·suĀ·lar
- ignorant of or uninterested in cultures, ideas, or peoples outside oneās own experience
Personally I can relate to the feelings that may have prompted this post. Thereās a tide of aversion to many perspectives that donāt align with the comfort zone of certain folks, and it feels specifically hostile to understanding how someone not white, not straight, not wealthy (in some cases) and not christian may feel about certain places and situations. I donāt expect agreement and often feel that Iām in the minority, and thatās cool. Thatās not a problem. Still just sharing feelings in response to topics and queries posted by others has led to name calling, accusations and bullying, in some cases sanctioned/refereed by moderators in a way that wouldnāt be mine (yes I know youāre volunteers and doing your best and Iām still appreciative). This has now happened several times.
Sometimes another viewpoint can make you feel a bit uncomfortable and thatās not always a bad thing. Makes me think about how someone else feels about something I posted or reacted to, or how someone in a different situation than me might feel differently so I can reconsider and do things differently, learn, whatever. But the community does feel too insular for that here and now to me and I donāt feel itās particularly healthy and open, and it may be a reason for what also feels like stagnation and not a really robust community at least on my local page. I donāt feel diverse perspectives are respected and encouraged to speak and be heard. Maybe thatās how other folks feel too idk. Iām trying to be open and thoughtful.
Thanks for the fun. Thereās a lot of love and appreciation for all and for the topics at hand. Iām taking a break. Weāll see what happens.
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FWIW, I donāt believe I am ignorant or intolerant with regard to different experiences, but I tend to take those discussions elsewhere.
At the same time, I do not tolerate comments I find offensive.
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This. There are plenty of fora, pages, etc. where people can discuss these issues ad nauseam.
Since I am the one @chienrouge is not-so-indirectly accusing of bullying for reminding them that not everyone, everywhere wants to hash out what ails society at large all the time.
Times are depressing enough, and itās nice to have a reprieve from that here.
Also ā way to alienate your allies, chien! Perhaps make fewer assumptions about people you donāt know anything about.
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A lot of times people just come here to have a light chat, take a break from real life with all its heaviness.
There are other places to have the heavy discussions.
It doesnāt follow that peopleās perspectives are closed or they are averse to yours just because they donāt want to engage in a direction you want on a particular thread.
You might be surprised by how many people identify with or agree with positions you state. Most people understand food is political, food access is unequal, and so on forth. There are plenty of discussions here that link to those kinds of subjects. But taking every discussion there isnāt necessary.
Itās okay for people to want a small space that isnāt as heavy all the time as everywhere else seems to be.
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Iāve sort of changed my approach after becoming upset in July. I was on vacation- my first vacation in 2 years and 5 months- and I was upset about some Alpha postersā comments. Some Beta posters kept on liking the Alpha postersā comments,while my posts were getting no likes. Talk about polarization creep.
I now mostly interact with people I enjoy or people who donāt ruffle my feathers. I mostly ignore posters who aggravate me.
Itās funny- because Iāve been called a troll by some posters- and other posters have told me I come across as diplomatic.
I will take the bait occasionally.
There are cliques on this Board, and some people gang up on unpopular or unique opinions by liking all their palsā posts that are contrary to the unpopular or unique opinion.
If people with unpopular or unique opinions continually run up against Mean Girls and Mean Fellas, theyāll probably post less frequently, because constant critique means that the Unpopular Poster or Unique Poster is not a bird of a feather. Of course, itās the unique suggestions that make a discussion interesting, not the consensus comments.
I suppose I have my own clique. Itās obvious I click like on my favourite posters a lot. Itās validation. We validate our cyberfriends and vice versa, for a little Iāll scratch your back.
I might not like an otherwise likeable post because the poster has been an jerk to me previously.
I try not to be passive aggressive or a complete jerk to people I disagree with.
Itās just like Grade 7. Grade 7 was a good precursor to what the rest of life tends to be like.
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I graduated HS in the early 90s and never looked back 
Strangers on the internet are just that to me ā nothing more, nothing less.
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Sometimes all people have to go on is tone.
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I think when posting on a mostly anonymous message board like this one, our default criteria when deciding whether to post something or not should always be something like the following:
- Whatever you would never say to a personās face in real life, should never be posted on the Internet
The anonymity of the Internet has, unfortunately, made keyboard warriors out of all us.
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Oh no!!! I thought that everyone would outgrow this stage!!!
LOL!
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Or, in a socio-political context one can post <insert company\chef\restaurant> contributes to xxx socio-political group. But not "therefore anyone who patronizes <company\chef\restaurant> must also support xxx and xxx is wrong regarding their opinion of socio-political issue ?
Yes, for sure.
I mean, seriously, as someone mentioned up thread, this is a food board. Itās supposed to be light and breezy, a place where you go to shoot the shit about what youāve eaten, how you ate it, and maybe even how you made it so you could tell other people how you ate it.
Weāre not discussing major socio-economic or political issues here. If one wanted to change the world by talking about food and tangentially related food issues, there are better and more appropriate fora to do so.
This is escapism at its culinary best.
Eat, and let eat.
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And donāt yuck my yum! (Although feel free to yum my yuck.)
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Can I at least yuck your yuck?
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I donāt know what part of my comment this is in reply to. Of course, tone doesnāt translate very well online between strangers, and more often than not it is due to the reception of the message, not necessarily its intent.
I donāt go out of my way online to offend others, nor to be offended 
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Please do! Do you have the same visceral aversion to mayo as I? And is this a good time to mention I donāt like filet-o-fish?
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Iāve been known to go down a rabbit hole or two, and today I found myself here! Wow.
Iām thinking context is everything. At the time, maybe āwelcome to folks retreating to a world obsessed with foodā.
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