I’d venture that you might be reacting more to people “enforcing” or freely opining on “rules” that apply to certain cultures vs others.
For example, carbonara and alfredo with or without cream, when recipes both ways are freely found and made all over the place (there’s a masterclass link I included in a recent alfredo thread that parsed variations) whether or not people like it.
However I see all kinds of nonsense with respect to Indian (and other Asian and middle eastern) food that is completely alien to the cuisine, and yet some of the same people probably don’t care, do it themselves, or have no idea.
Kind of the same with pronunciation – which cultures can you not mispronounce names / words / foods from, vs which ones is it ok to say “nah, that’s too hard, I’ll just call them / it what I find easy / convenient”. (Some Italian and Greek names are not than much easier than Sri Lankan or Thai ones, and yet.)
