Your former friends are something else!
I would like to have given her some version of an I.O.U. Maybe with the amount she owed, and then credited with the amount of a gift.
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Is the friend named Captain Spaulding?
(singing along with the chorus in Animal Crackers)
[Party guests]
Hooray for Captain Spaulding
The African Explorer!
[Groucho]
Did someone call me Schnorrer?
[Party guests]
Hooray hooray hooray!
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I’m lucky enough to have never seen serious “accidentally on purpose” behavior like that. OTOH, I did see it as running joke-- after the weekly poker session we’d all go to the diner at 0100-ish & when done Vin or Mike (I forget which–it’s been over 50 years 
) would grab the bill & point at ea of us going “OK, you owe $3 & you $4 & etc.” but never included himself 
. We all knew it & were waiting for it and it was all good natured.
There was that really long popcorn worthy thread 
on CH about that couple that always invited themselves to folks’ dinners at their regular hangouts.
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Just to be sure. Is this former friend the same as the former friend who got mad at you for paying too much tip and also at the dumpling stand that the number of dumplings are too much… and made her husband to tell you that you are wrong? Or you have a different weird friend?
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Different weird friend.
This one who “forgets” to pay is a divorced 54 year old half Danish-Canadian/half Bavarian Canadian blonde corporate trainer who skis.
My friend’s wife who thinks I tip too much is a married 39 year old Cantonese Canadian civil servant mother of 2 who takes ballet classes.
I’ve also mentioned a Greek Canadian friend (usually Greeks are cheque grabbers who like to treat their friends) who would take money out of the group tip at a group dinner, in effect taking her own meal at discount. She’s 54, single, spends her money she’s “saved” on season’s tickets to see soccer, and stadium concerts.
I’ll stop with the Roz stories
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That’s the subject of those old CH posts to which @WallaceReadsAlot referred. I could remember the posts, but couldn’t recall the names of the moochers.
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These are great stories. I wonder if these people grew up really poor, so they are insecure about money and constantly trying to save as much as possible (a survive instinct)
Mooch and Hooch were famous! 
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Nope, in all 3 cases. All middle class. Their basic personality type, which is formed by age 4 .
The last one I mention, her parents owned a greasy spoon. Really bad form to take from a server’s tip, considering her parents were owners and management! But- I guess, management does sometimes steal tips (Batali!)
The divorced Danish-Bavarian Canadian one does have cash-flow issues since she often gets fired and likes to go on weeklong ski trips every year, but the other 2 own their own homes, seem to be doing just fine.
At about 1:30
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That’s exactly the clip I watched . He’s quite the dancer, too.
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World class moves.
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I’m in Bellevue, Washington , went to Daniel’s Broiler ( thanks @Lambchop ! Great meal!
At the bottom of the menu, and also explained the following
20 percent service charge added and kept by management, server gets paid base plus a commission on sales. This is a steak restaurant and our bill was well into the triple digits.
was it included in the price or added on the bill? sounds like it wasn’t included which would be more preferable. either way, it’s encouraging non-tipping. a restaurant i would support.
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“A 20 percent service charge will be automatically added to guest checks”.
Not included in the price of the items on the menu, but added to the bill at the end of the meal. I didn’t actually see the bill, but that’s the way I understood it.
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Seems that Daniels is trying to imply that minimum wage plus “commission” means its servers come out ahead without tips, which legally are 100% the server’s.
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I support it too, but I have been to many 15-20% service fee added restaurants and I did not know so I ended up paying another 20% on top of the 15-20%.
We had lunch today at a Mexican (Texas chain) restaurant. I placed a cash tip on the table while my husband paid with a cc. Our usual practice. The server thanked me for the cash tip because otherwise he only receives his tips once every two weeks in with his paycheck. He was dead serious. Maybe I’ve been living under a rock but this was news to me.
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I’ve been told similar things by servers at some Indian restaurants in southwestern Ontario.
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You’re probably just not in business 
The processing and bank transfers of credit card payments take a few days. If you dine out on Friday night, the restaurant might actually receive that money on Monday and have it available so the checks don’t bounce on Tuesday.
It’s risky for the restaurant to keep a bunch of cash on hand and pay out immediately, and writing a bunch of tip checks every day would be a nightmare for bookkeeping, so they pay out tips on the same schedule as the regular hourly wages.
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